GERMANY: LAND OF THE LONELY

It is statistically proven: Germans are a bunch of unsocial loners. This may not sound nice but according to a 2012 census some 16 million Germans live on their own. No family, no partner, no flat sharing with others. This equals one out of five Germans living on their own (still including children, who are very unlikely to live alone). This is not just a few lonely widows or urban singles. The census also shows that people with international backgrounds are much less likely to live on their own. This trend has a massive impact on society. 

In certain cities (including the capital) about a third of inhabitants prefer to live on their own. Well, economically speaking this seems good news. They all have their fridges, tellies, hair-dryers. Some might say that Germans are fortunate in being able to afford living on their own. For many people the idea of having this space for themselves is nothing but an unaffordable dream. 

Having said that, I am afraid this is not very good for the planet. More houses mean more heating, more stuff means more waste – you get the picture. Germans pride themselves in being a green nation, there seems to be a limit to this.

So, what does this mean for society? Many have no partner or only one they choose not to live with. There are no kids when you live on your own. These people are not used to share stuff. They may be obliged to share in public places and at work but at home? Full control over the TV seems a child’s dream come true. At home it’s all theirs. This applies not only to materialistic goods. Their memories, experiences, emotions and their little worries are all for themselves.

You might argue that they still have friends and family, people they talk to. Sure, but family is different. A partner is always there and so is family. You cannot choose to meet them or simply not answer the phone. They are there for you and you are there for them. You stick together in difficult situations. Is being alone so much fun?

Is there a cultural root to it? I learnt that Germany is right on top of the global loner list. Only in Sweden the quota is higher. Is this a Germanic thing? Is this a side-effect of affluent societies? I would argue that these people are not all happy (which also counts for people living with others). Dating agencies seem to prosper and advertise heavily in all German media.

It surely shows that elderly Germans treasure their independence and are able to live on their own. I cannot judge if they may prefer to live differently but the figures are clear. It also shows that women (there is no real statistical gender difference on this matter) are fully independent. This should be welcomed. They seem to do fine and it is up to them to decide in what kind of relationship they want to engage. 

Maybe I am an old-fashioned romantic but the idea of having a society full of super-independent individuals doesn’t really appeal to me. I’d even raise the question if it is worth living in it. My concept of society is not a bunch of singles living “their way” having only to consult their wallets before doing things. Am I overreacting in saying that there is a point where independence ends and the inability of connecting with others starts? I believe that your mindset is shaped by your environment. In this light I think the rising number of people living alone is not an achievement but rather a sign of incapacity.

DRINKA PINTA MILK FOREVER

The pint is the single most British thing I could think of. Nowadays the metric system seems to have developed into a global standard but the UK is known to be the last stronghold of other measurements. Brits manage successfully to keep this weird metres and litres at bay.

Representing this other way of British measuring is the pint (some 0.57 litres). You get milk in pints and even more importantly pubs serve in pints or half-pints. Getting half a litre in a pub is something unheard of. Litres must have been so alien to the English-speaking world that they still are not sure on how to write it; litre or liter?

Another quintessentially British unit is the stone used for measuring body weight (1 stone equals 6.35 kg). Brits would usually tell their weight in stone and then convert it in kilos. They tend to look a bit exerted during the exercise but I guess this is just for show. While kilos are a bit abstract and technical a stone sounds heavy and brings a picture to your mind. It feels that large parts of the British population took up the fight against the extinction of the stone unit. Their solution is to put on weight and thus help many stones to live happy lifes.

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When the British expanded their Empire over the globe they also brought along their measurement units. Counting distances in miles and feet are the only units of measurements which I know of that seem to have stayed over time. Actually I really like feet. If you are fortunate enough to climb Ben Nevis you’ll be much prouder when you mastered an altitude of staggering 4,409 ft rather than just 1,344 metres. Note that the BBC runs websites where you have the honour to convert distances measured in mundane metres into the grand ‘Imperial’ system.

Another example of two systems that run parallel is the Fahrenheit and Celcius scales used for temperature. You may choose your favourite and this will pretty much depend on where you grew up. The BBC has been forecasting the temperature in Celcius for some 20 years but would add practically always “this means in Fahrenheit...”. After more than two decades the British public (or the BBC?) is not ready for this dramatic change in their news coverage. The typical British response would be that „we’re just too stubborn“. I’m not so sure if this is stubbornness or just a working system. If it ain’t broken don’t fix it. Could it be a romantic reminder of the Empire? A statement towards Europe and EU efforts to standardise everything? Maybe it's just treasuring old traditions and cultural heritage.

Tourists and business travellers shouldn’t mind this too much. I guess it should not be too surprising that in other countries some things work differently. Besides discovering new stuff might be fun.

GRAB WHAT YOU WANT AND LEAVE THE MONEY SOMEWHERE

This article tells about a peculiarity I haven’t encountered outside of Germany. It shows the high level of trust Germans have in social order. Farmers sell their products on the field or in sheds next to streets where you just take what you want and are trusted to leave the right amount of money. There will be nobody charging you. Untipically for Germany there will be nobody to control you. This is a quite common way of selling flowers (selbst schneiden, selbst zahlen) and produce such as potatoes, honey, eggs or pumpkins.

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The idea is simple: you cut the flowers you want and pay the respective price. There is a box and a price list, that’s all you need. In some places templates allow you to measure for example flowers and then pay according to size.

Farmers even provide knifes and place them next to the cash box (you can see this on the picture). I show this regularly to visiting friends and we always have the feeling that the money, flowers and the knifes wouldn’t make it for longer than a few days in many other countries.

In some places farmers decided to leave the box open so you can just help yourself when you need some change. I love this kind of shopping and am sometimes surprised to find some 30 odd Euros in these boxes. Farmers seem not to be afraid that some drunk or youth might take advantage of their faith in people.

In Munich you will encounter this business model even in the city centre. There it works with newspapers. You find baskets for each of the common newspapers and you just grab one and put a coin in the respective box.

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So, are all Germans so honest/nice/stupid/well-educated/trustworthy/not clever enough to pay? According to German newspaper FAZ over 80% of customers pay honestly the proposed full price in that sort of business (http://bit.ly/OnmE00). Munich’s newspaper boxes seem to be an exception though. This sort of concept had to be abandoned in cities like Berlin or Frankfurt.

Let it all Go – the German Way

After a few busy weeks at work my wife and I wanted a short break and went to the German coast for a weekend. We just wanted to relax a bit and not worry about anything. It worked out - but in a quintessentially German manner.

It started when we checked in and got a thorough tourist introduction with a level of detail I did not expect. The hotel manager asked us at what time we wanted breakfast and wrote it down on his list. He then asked how we wanted our eggs (soft, medium, hard) and also noted our answer. Also the obligatory question ‘tea or coffee’ was asked and the answer recorded. We were informed that the next day we would sit at table number seven. It’s not that I have had restless nights wondering where to sit the next morning but I guess it doesn’t hurt to know this in advance.

It took me a full day to understand the exercise. The following morning table number seven awaited us with a kettle of tea on it and two medium eggs (as medium as it can get). We also had an info sheet regarding the day’s weather. Again the level of detail struck me. Divided into three hour slots it showed: temperature, humidity, chance of rain (and expected amount), chance of thunder storms, wind speeds and air pressure. A final info told us dusk and dawn.

In fact I got a glimpse of all that accuracy when booking the place. They had prices for single and double rooms and for dogs. However, small dogs will cost 1.50 € and big ones 2.50 € (excuse my bad research but I cannot explain when a dog is regarded as big by hotel standards).

We got all the ‘essential’ tourist information which included: a tourist card and a tides calendar that told us the tidal movement with high and low water for the whole year by the minute. This made sense to me. The Wattenmeer is famous for its extreme tidal movements and you don’t want to be ‘surprised’ by high tide when wading in the mud some 2 km off the shore.

The “Büsum at a grasp” guide informed about everybody who might help you in whatever could possibly happen to you. The usual suspects were: police, fire brigade, coast guard and local hospitals. I could make sense of having the local dentist, pharmacies and possibly the ‘poisoning emergency number’ (the institution was located some 300 km away). Why it also provided the numbers of the local town hall as an emergency number I could not get. Further, a heating emergency unit and hotlines for issues with electricity, gas, sanitary instalations, water and electric equipment were listed. There must be a firm belief that this list would be at hand in the moment of mischief and that the listed party would always be available.

I also was surprised when we went to the town’s beach. Note that the community owns this patch on the dyke and charge tourists a small contribution unless you stay in a local hotel (that issues tourist cards for their guests). There was a parking space for bikes because apparently no bikes were allowed on the beach. Dogs on the other hand are fine and there was a part reserved for people with dogs (size not specified). 

- Büsum Norddeich Beach -

The beach area was well designed and a feast for the eye for any organised person. The area served a building offering toilets, changing rooms and a baby change. Exactly every 200 m you had a staircase going into the water. Every 50 m was a dust bin and every 100 m a shower. Every 500 m you could rest on a bench. On the entrance a board with rules explained you what to do in order to fully relax.

This all may be written tongue in cheek. But I really have to say that I felt very comfortable and enjoyed the weekend very much. The place was totally quiet, everybody respected the other’s place and in two days one single plastic cup on the sea bed was the only visible contamination. There seem to be two ways to relax. You can just go with the flow and live for the moment or do it the Büsum way and have everything organised and settled in advance.